How Blogging Saved My Marriage

Sarah and I argue a lot. (What married couple doesn’t?) For a while the problem has been that we argue more often than we have genuine conversation. It’s put a strain on our relationship to the point where we’ve just started talking less and less in an attempt to avoid arguments.

That is until we got Google Reader.

This morning I said to Sarah, “It feels like we’ve been talking a lot more recently and that you’ve especially been talking more to me. It even reminds me of the first time we ever talked on the phone.” I asked her why she thought that was.

Sarah attributes our increase in loving communication to the blogosphere.

I mean it makes sense. I’m at work all day and she’s with the kids. When I get home she really doesn’t want to listen to me gripe about all the people who gave me crappy tips and I have a lukewarm response to her recaps of life as a mother. (After all I’m not a mother.) We didn’t have anything interesting to talk about.

Now Sarah loves to hear about what I read about on a friend’s worship blog and I love to hear about how she’s connecting with other stay-at-home/homeschooling moms through blogging. Add to that all of the comments we leave on each other’s blogs and you’ve got a recipe for one communicative marriage.

So forget the counselor.

Subscribe to an RSS feed today, and fall in love with your wife all over again.


10 Responses to “How Blogging Saved My Marriage”

  1. 1 Kara Shepherd June 23, 2007 at 7:58 am

    My husband and I have always said we do the best when we talk on the phone. So, if we’re mad at each other we call and talk on the phone. Even when we’re both home. I just go into my office, and he goes into his (the bathroom!) and I call him on his cell phone. But maybe we need to try this blogging thing. We have other friends that communicate via youtube.

  2. 2 worshipcity June 23, 2007 at 12:53 pm

    That’s beautiful man! I think I’m going to print that out and slap it on the fridge for my wife to read đŸ™‚ Hahaha.

  3. 3 Fred McKinnon June 23, 2007 at 8:27 pm

    Man, that’s awesome. I’m been trying desperately to get my bride to join the blog revolution, but no luck so far. I think it would be an awesome way for her to vent, share revelation, and the like .. but with 4 kids ages 6 and under – she barely has time to sleep and put up with all my ridiculous nonsense, much less blog.

    that’s way cool ya’ll can share that “culture” together.

    For the Kingdom,

  4. 4 worshipcity June 23, 2007 at 10:02 pm

    Looks like your spam filter busted my comment!
    That should be a slogan somewhere: Forget the counselor, subscribe to an RSS feed today!!
    Thanks for the love man, I think I’ll print this out and post it on my fridge to show the wife!

  5. 5 Billy Chia June 23, 2007 at 10:29 pm

    No my spam filter’s working good, I just have it set to moderate right now and I was at a wedding all day. Going to weddings is good for your marriage too.

  6. 6 Lewis June 24, 2007 at 7:44 am

    This totally makes sense. I’m sorry that there are “problems,” but this seems an ingenious way at moving towards a fully communicative relationship. I’ll have to remember this and recommend it to the families here at church!

  7. 7 Billy Chia June 24, 2007 at 3:24 pm

    I really appreciate your empathy. Keep in mind there are “problems” in all good marriages. A marriage without problems is a marriage with out passion and that IS a problem.

    I would totally recommend blogging to all families although I hope my post comes off as tongue-in-cheek as I intended it. After all, Sarah and I actually meet regularly with a mentor couple from church who “counsels” us. đŸ™‚

  8. 8 Lewis June 25, 2007 at 11:13 am

    Awesome, Billy. Yeah, no, I never forget couple problems, believe you me. But I can totally see the benefit to exploring things this way!

  9. 9 alex June 26, 2007 at 1:36 am

    i love it – me and the wife do dirty texting, very good for the marriage!

  10. 10 klampert July 10, 2007 at 8:04 am

    That is very cool…

    and alex…TMI buddy. lol

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