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I Spilled the Beans

I was planning on surprising Sarah by driving home Tuesday for our anniversary. (We’ll be married two years on March 11th.) Tonight while we were talking on the phone I couldn’t hold it in and just told her I was planning on coming home. She was so bummed about not spending our anniversary together. I didn’t want her to spend two more days all down about it. Now she’ll have two days of excitment looking forward to being with me.

I can’t wait to see her again.

2 Years Ago Today

IMG_5159I proposed to Sarah.

The night before I’d taken the chocolate out of her Starbucks Advent calendar and replaced it with a clue. That one led to another clue. The hunt took her all around the house and even online to some websites I’d made. It eventually led back to the calendar where I hid the ring in the box for Dec. 24th.

After the hunt Sarah wrote, “The beginning of the rest of our lives,” on the side of the box for the 11th. This year we socked the calendar Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, Rollos and Hershey’s Kisses. Today Sarah and I shared 2 Kisses during our morning coffee. I took a picture of the calendar and we reminisced in how awesome the last two years have been.

Zucchini

It’s the little things that make Sarah such an awesome wife.

I just got done eating some really tasty zucchini.

Awhile ago I mentioned how much I love the zucchini at Biaggi’s and since then Sarah’s cooked it several times.

She always pays attention to small details and I love that about her.

Driscoll on Pastors’ Wives

The Acts 29 Network posted an excellent audio clip of Mark Driscoll speaking on the role of a Pastor’s Wife. My favorite parts included:

I need [my wife] to hold me.

Anyone else can play piano or answer the phone, but nobody else can be my wife. I can delegate a lot of things but as soon as you delegate “wife” you have real trouble.

Sarah and I listened to it together and at one point an “Amen” even slipped out of her at the truth of Driscoll’s words.

If you are in ministry and married, you need to listen to this with your spouse.

What’s your advice for success as a pastor’s wife?

When the Water Park Closes

Today we created our own homegrown waterpark.

Sarah and I agreed to leave the computer off all day and spend some family time together. We thought it’d be fun to go to a real water park but apparently they’re only open on the the weekend.

This is what we resorted to:

(It was a ridiculous amount of fun)

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Love Song for Sarah

When I first met Sarah I wrote this chord progression on the piano for her. I used to play it everyday and pray for her. After a while I put lyrics to the song.

Sarah was the first in our relationship to actually say the words, “I love you.” In fact she didn’t really mean to, they just slipped out one day when we were gazing deeply into each other’s eyes.

I didn’t say, “I love you” back.

Instead, I took her hand, pulled her over to the piano, and played this song.

(my voice cracks a bit but that’s what it use to sound like when I’d sing it and pray for her. I wrote the lyrics to the bridge after we got married.)

Continue reading ‘Love Song for Sarah’

Wedding as Worship Part 7

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 7th of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 7 – The Kiss:

Exit Tune: Beautiful Day – U2

Eve-Marie was so cute. Her job was to drop rose pedals on the way in so she thought she’d pick them up on the way out.

Wedding as Worship Part 6

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 6th of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 6 – Lighting the Unity Candle:

Flame – Nooma, Rob Bell

Sarah and I sifted through tons of music to get the best picks for our wedding. We couldn’t seem to find a song that fit with the lighting of our unity candle. We though this was more representative of what we wanted to convey.

You can purchase Flame at Nooma.com

Wedding as Worship Part 5

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 5th of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 5 – The Bride’s Entrance – Vows:

Billy’s Vows:

SARAH!! I take you to be my wife, confident in my soul that you will be my lifesaving helpmate, true friend and loving companion

Today, in the presence of God, our family, and our friends, I give to you my sacred vow that as your husband and Eve-Marie’s Daddy,

I will always protect you, cherish you, and sacrifice myself to love you as Christ loved the Church

Not only in health but also in sickness,

Throughout our laughter and our tears,

Whether we are blessed with abundance or struggling with want.

I promise to

Love you completely

Giving you my heart, my body and my commitment

And to lead you in the adventure that God ordained for us

As long as we both live.

Sarah’s Vows:

Billy, I take you to be my husband and Eve-Marie’s Daddy, confident in my soul that you will be my faithful protector, true friend and loving companion.

Today, in the presence of God, our family, and our friends, I give to you my sacred vow that as your wife,

I will always help you, respect you, and submit to you as to the Lord–

Not only in health but also in sickness,

Throughout our laughter and our tears,

Whether we are blessed with abundance or struggling with want.

I promise to

Love you completely

Giving you my heart, my body and my commitment

And to join you in the adventure that God ordained for us

As long as we both live.

Wedding as Worship Part 4

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 4th of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 4 – Processional:

Not to Us – Chris Tomlin

We had our bridesmaids/groomsmen/parents walk in during Not to Us. At around 1:30 on the video you see my brother, Al, walk in my mom-in-law and then see my best man, Kevin, raising his hands. Al’s not much of a church kid so not really knowing what Kevin was doing he gives Kev a high-five.

The band:

Wedding as Worship Part 3

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 3rd of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 3 – Worshiping God through Song 3:

Better is One Day – Matt Redman

One of my favorite moments from that day is at the end of this video when I let the people at my wedding lead me in worship.

The band:

Wedding as Worship Part 2

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

This is the 2nd of 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 2 – Worshiping God through Song 2:

In Christ Alone – Stuart Townend

BJ laid down a nice little solo. Scope it:

The band:

Wedding as Worship Part 1

When Sarah and I were planning our wedding we decided we wanted the event to be first and foremost a service of corporate worship to God and only a wedding on secondary level.

Over the next 7 days I’ll be posting 7 sections of video from our wedding on March 11th, 2006 to show what that looked like.

Part 1 – Worshiping God through Song 1:

  • No One Like You – David Crowder
  • Indescribable – Chris Tomlin

The band:

Surprise

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For My Beautiful, Detail-Oriented Wife

Yes, what follows is the actual IM conversation Sarah and I had on 11/05/05
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New Friendlier Categories

Going through old blog posts brings up great memories. I cleaned up the “categories” section of my blog and found some real gems.

Engagement Story

My favorite posts were some images I created when I was trying to figure out what kind of engagement ring to buy Sarah. I told her I posted some “abstract art” on my blog and asked her which she liked the best. I also posted pictures of an ugly sink and told her, “here’s a sink I like but which color should I get it in?” hoping to find out if she liked white or yellow gold. Despite the obviousness of my post she was still clueless as to my scheming. Here’s the ring I finally chose.
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How Blogging Saved My Marriage

Sarah and I argue a lot. (What married couple doesn’t?) For a while the problem has been that we argue more often than we have genuine conversation. It’s put a strain on our relationship to the point where we’ve just started talking less and less in an attempt to avoid arguments.

That is until we got Google Reader.

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My Wife Rocks

Sarah and I celebrate one year of happiness on Sunday. It was amazing. This girl is fabulous kids, and I can’t believe I get to spend my whole life with her. We hit up the Abbey Inn for some time away together. I highly recommend it.

And then tonight I come home late after working pretty hard and Sarah’s got dinner all ready for me. There’s a plate wrapped in foil in the fridge and she’s written my name on it and put a little heart. I swear this girl loves me or something.

The last year has been pretty stellar. I wouldn’t have traded it for anything.

On the Up and Up

Life can be pretty awesome sometimes. Eve-Marie keeps reminding me that , “You’re the best Dad ever!” Sarah IS the best wife ever. I’m feeling very passionate about the job search. For a while I was in a quandry there, but now that I figured out what I want to do the process of finding a job has been almost as fun as actually having a job.
I have to recomend:

www.familylife.com

If you are married, get to a “Weekend to Remeber” Family Life Marriage confrence and fast!

Best Year of My LIfe

So one year ago today I met the absolute love of my life….kinda. (You can read about that day or see some pictures)

Sarah and I “met” through eharmony on April 5, 2005. But on August 9, 2005 we hung out for the frist time and my life hasn’t been the same since. This girl is amaizng, beautiful, captivating, and other adjectives.

I love her more than I can understand or explain and I think about her constantly. She’s my lifesaver and I couldn’t do this with out her. It’s been a wild ride and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Honeymoon Pix

Finally got some pics up on the web from the honeymoon.

You can veiw them at www.flickr.com/photos/billychia

Married

Wow, I find myself still pretty intoxicated by the whole experience.

I woke up Saturday morning at 5 AM to the sound of thunder and torrential downpour. Even though the schedule didn’t have me at the church until 10:30 I showed up at 8 and was already in my tux by 10.

As I spent those few hours alone in the church waiting for Kevin, my best man, to arrive I watched through the windows as the rain continued to saturate the air outside. That image keeps coming back to me of pure sheets of water flowing from heaven so profusely that it looked as if I could open the doors and swim straight up to the clouds as though New Life Church was miraculously relocated to the bottom of the ocean.

And that’s how I feel. Completely drenched in God’s blessing.

Sarah and I wanted our wedding to be a worship service first and a wedding second and that’s exactly what happened. By the time half past two had rolled around the torrents outside had lessened to a drizzle. As the worship started the waves of God’s presence had crashed into sanctuary to start the new flood. When I left the stage and joined the congregation to sing “Not to Us” The Spirit has so pierced my heart and engaged me in worship I completely forgot I was getting married at all. I remember the song coming to a close and the sudden snap of a realization that I needed to be back on stage with Pastor Tracy to receive Sarah when she walked down the aisle.

Standing on the platform looking to the door in the back my heart started to pound. From the angle I was at I could see Tom, Sarah’s dad, and I knew that Sarah was standing next to him even though I couldn’t see her. The tears started to well up inside of me. By the time she’d reached the platform to grab my hand my cheeks were wet and apparently I was so overwhelmed by emotion that I held her hands just a bit harder than I actually realized.

I can remember hearing Tracy’s voice and feeling blessed that such a good friend was marrying us. I was so struck by Sarah’s beauty and the intensity of the moment that I’m not sure I heard any of the content that Tracy was speaking. I’m looking forward to watching the video and listening to Tracy’s wise words for our marriage.

We lit our unity candle to the Nooma video Flame. As Rob Bell spoke about Raya, Ahavah, and Dode (The Hebrew words for: best friends’ love, commitment love, and sexual love respectively) His words seemed real for the first time even though I’d watched this video a hundred times.

Sarah had the inside of my ring inscribed with the words Raya, Ahavah, and Dode as a pre-wedding gift. I gave her a bracelet charm reading “I love you.” I’m still amazed at the depth and complexity of our love and the Big Flame that I’ve finally experienced with Sarah.

When it got down to the end of the ceremony and Tracy pronounced us “Husband and Wife” Sarah was apparently so overwhelmed by emotion that she kissed me just a bit harder than she actually realized.

For the last three days Newburgh has been completely covered in rain. That is, except for a few hours on Saturday afternoon when God brought out the sun so that Sarah and I could take some wedding photos downtown.

Everything is amazing. It’s like that worship service is still going. From the dinner afterwards, to our first night as one flesh, to opening gifts yesterday. That emotion, that vibe of God’s immense power hasn’t ended. We were completely humbled by the love and support that was showered on us by all of our friends in the process.

Perhaps the most humbling of all has been what God has done between Eve-Marie and I. When Sarah and I got back to the church after taking pictures downtown I picked up Eve-Marie and said, “I love you.” She held me and said, “I love you, Daddy” and tears flowed again. I told Sarah about this and said, “I really felt like Eve-Marie’s Daddy.” She said, “You are Eve-Marie’s Daddy.”

“Happiness” is such a pale word to describe what I feel.

So here I am in my office trying to shift my focus from marital bliss to youth ministry and God keeps saying, “Linger in this moment a little longer. I’ve blessed you in a very special way and if you really want to minister to youth, if you really want to love them, you need to know my love.”

No other event in my entire life has brought me closer to God or taught me more about His nature than becoming Sarah’s Husband and Eve-Marie’s Dad.

Engaged

On Sunday morning I asked Sarah to marry me and she accepted. Life is so crazy awesome blessed I can’t even explain it. I’d been planning my proposal from when I was still in Michigan, I can’t tell you how many times I had to bite my tongue so the words “Will you marry me?” didn’t slip out of my mouth before the right moment. I prayed a crazy lot about it and finally God brought me the idea He wanted. It involved leading Sarah on a scavenger hunt by following clues hidden around her house looking for a piece of chocolate, but at the end instead of the chocolate was the engagement ring John and Mandy made for me. Some of the clues took her to websites I had made that you can check out:

www.geocities.com/WhereIsSarahsChocolate www.geocities.com/WhereIsSarahsChocolate/OnlineAgainWhatAPunk http://www.geocities.com/whereissarahschocolate/ThisHasReachedOfficialRigamaroleStatus/
A real God thing for me was the fact that Sarah didn’t even say, “yes” to my proposal. Sarah’s mom had told me that when Sarah was young she used to stop talking and just nod or shake her head to questions even if you weren’t looking at her. I have noticed Sarah do this when things are especially powerful or emotional for her. The fact that she nodded “yes” to my proposal makes it amazingly meaningful to me because I know I hit her heart. (You can see Sarah nodding her head on the video I made with my secret hidden “Proposal Cam”)

Then was another kewl God part happened cuz after I got up off my knee and kissed Sarah, Eve-Marie, who had been following along on the hunt with us said, “I want some jewelry too!” And at that point I pulled out the ring I had bought for Eve-Marie and asked her if I could marry her mom and be her Daddy.

If you want the more poetic version of the story you can check it out on Sarah’s site:
http://sarahmchia.blogspot.com/2005/12/riddle-of-day.html

I have so much more to say on this. The last two days have felt like years in terms of how they have impacted me emotionally and spiritually. When I asked God, “Is Sarah the girl you want me to marry?” He didn’t answer with a “Yes,” either; He shouted back with a chorus of “Yeses!” that is still continuing to confirm our decision to get married. I’ll also say that preparing to be a dad has given me crazy new insights to God as Father that I’ve never understood in my entire life.

Happiness, contenment, and joy are all possible with Christ.

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Like Mother Like Daughter


Note the awesomeness of the “hand on the hip” maneuver. This one is tough to pull off and no one can do it quite like a ^^00|23 girl.

Five hours of sleep Could be more And could be les…

Five hours of sleep
Could be more
And could be less
It’s not even light out yet
On any other day I’d want nothing more
Than to bury my head again and
Ditch consciousness like a kid brother
But today
I am in love

This plastic carton of blueberries
On a closer look
Turned out be just grapes
There was no cream in the refrigerator anyway
So I set it aside and underneath
Fresh strawberries
Today they taste so sweet
Pure, like a major 7th chord
I leave the bag of processed sugar
Untouched

On days like today
When life’s hard edge
Is dulled
Struck against my resolve
When sleep
Is an insignificant raindrop
Because my waking dreams
Are more vivid than rainbows
When your kiss is only days from my lips
I climb the dawn triumphant
Content in this crisp air and dim light
Knowing what’s to come

Strong Bad thinks he’s so awesome…

yeah “Geddup Noise” is the email 136 on the h*r.com
SB aint go nuthing on me man. Sarah and I have written each other 437 emails.
Yr looking slow man. I think you need to pickitup, pickitup, pickitup, even if you can run a mile.

2 hours and counting…

2 hours and counting…

Woohoo!!

Sarah’s coming to Saginaw on Thursday!

Return

Current Tunes: Chris Tomlin

My trip to Evansville was fully excellent.

Highlights include:
Awesome worship @ CFC
Pastor David praying for us
Meeting Sarah’s Parents
Meeting Josh
Meeting Sarah’s friends
Hacky sackin
Being down by the river
Playing guitar
Praying together
Worshiping together in Sarah’s living room
Reading the Bible together
Talking to Blue for like 2 seconds before I showed Sarah Numa Numa
Dinner with Kevin and Nikki
“It’s the Kevin Show. Written and Directed by…Kevin. Produced by…Kevin” “Starring…Kevin”
Seeing Extra Blue Kind @ Wired (seriously check out “Make Yourself Useless”)
And not doing something….

I’ll need to remember to live in these memories for a while. I posted an obnoxious amount of pictures for your enjoyment on www.billychia.com.

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"I Haven’t Wasted My Youth"


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Future Tatoos ("Stars" in sharpie and magic marker…


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Four Down…

…zero to go

w00t! I am so going to Indianna tomorrow. sw33t.

When it’s sweltering in downtown Evansville…


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…the only thing to do is to hop in a fountain……


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…or be a fountain.


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Hail, hail oh Lion of Judah…


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…how wonderful you are.


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